SpankySD

Tough guys are the most fun, ass in the air

CURRENTLY:

6'1" 180-185 lbs. blue, gray. I alternate between gym rat, then lazy.

I'm looking to play. Generally, I am on the top/Dom side of things, but I am a true switch. Turn around is fair play, and paybacks can be a bitch.

I'm into dom/sub, rope, spanking, restraint, cbt, electro, gags, assplay, exhibitionism, humiliation, edging, discipline, training, ws, sensation play, impact play, ... (well, it's a long list), and I am always open to new experiences. Erotic power exchange, and erotic pain, but also tenderness, sensitivity and affection. Most recently enamored with ear pulling, with long term chastity combined with edging & milking, and with abrasion play. I’ve also been exploring long term chastity over the past few years. Hit me up, you share that interest.

An interest in what's between your ears leads to an interest in what's between your legs. Crude intro messages are usually deleted.

MY TAKE ON DOMINANCE AND SUBMISSSION (and S&M):

Take your time to negotiate with me and establish trust, if you like. I want to know how you tick. Once you submit, then the tables turn, and I am in charge. This is play. Everyone should have fun. It is about the connection, and exploration. I respect you, which also means I respect your limits. But, I will push them. You may have a safe word, if it helps you to be confident. I can't say that I have ever known anyone to use one. It's not rocket science to know if a scene is working, or not.

If I submit to you, then I will be clear on my physical limits. I don't have pain limits. I like to explore emotional catharsis, and extreme emotional states. Tops have limits too. I like to test them sanely. Sometimes I am compliant and service oriented. Other times I am resistant, and need to be broken. I don't like choices, unless it's a dilemma. If you don’t like to take charge, then we are not a good match for me to submit to you.

The dom/sub aspect seems to be a balance thing. When I have been topping a lot, then I can get into the mood to be sub. And it goes the other way too. A switching LTR could be done by tossing a coin once per week, to see who submits until he can win a coin toss. Then the tables would turn. In general, I don't like switching in a scene. But I don't mind a contest or game or wager see who is going to be on top.

MY HISTORY:

I was spanking myself hard by age 12. Hogtying myself by the age of 12 or 13, as well as some pretty serious CBT. I was doing electro CBT with my car battery charger by age 16. So, I guess I have the kink genes. This was pre-internet. I had no idea that anyone else shocked his cock head, or hung weights from his nuts, etc.. I discovered in the shower, by the age of 12 what it feels like to be sounded with a sliver of soap.

I began in the scene somewhat old guard style. My first significant kink relationship was with a wonderful sadistic and dominant man, who had a large play space, and knew what he was doing. That was a poly relationship, and I ended up having a sub of my own at the same time. As I played more, I came to love topping more and more. I see some wisdom in the old guard tradition Doms are brought up as subs first, or have been taken in by an experienced Dom to be trained as a Dom. I know that there are exceptions to this rule, but in general I would say that the best Doms have spent a fair amount of time on their knees at some point in their development.

WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR:

NSA fun, friends with benefits are good. Just plain friends. I am relationship oriented, and have had LTR's. I tend to play more than once. If you need to hide what you are doing from a partner, I would rather not play with you. Discretion is assured, however. I'm experienced with many kink topics, and I love to hear about something new to try.