aethia Tea, cake & aftercare (& rubber, bondage & fists)

v.2025-12-22
Kindness & inclusivity above all else.

Exploring kinks began as a lockdown project, and was well worth it. I'm more comfortable knowing what I want (as a dom or a sub). There's always goals in mind, but I'm quite pleased with where I am now, kink-wise.

I'm a big fan of anything tight and/or shiny (especially rubber, lycra, down/puffy jackets, or Adidas Chile), and sports kit (ice hockey, lacrosse, American football). Rubber and bondage are probably my biggest kinks, and the chunkier the better. Breath control, fisting, large butt toys, poppers, and long sessions are on the ascendent. Also apparently my nipples ARE connected, somehow! Locked since 22/12/2025.

As I sub, I find just losing yourself in gear (or just being a toy/hole) for a while can be such a relaxing & rejuvenating experience. For me, it's probably more about the look, the sensations, the experience rather than sex. What I find appealing about gimp/drone play is it's an opportunity to clear your mind and let someone else do the driving for a while. A sleepsack with some poppers and teasing is my happy place #MeditationThroughBondage.

As a dom, I want to find out what your buttons are, and push them. I want you to get into subspace while I do the driving. I've been told I'm a softdom, so expect praise but be ready for punishment. Dr Aethia's Kinky Spa fatures sensual rubber massages, teasing, poppers, hole training, and some stimulating video/audio. Enquire within for appointments ;) [though note I can't host]

I very much enjoy comfortable bondage and could stay in it for hours. I've been known to doze off in a sleepsack more than once. It can definitely be bondage even if you don't want out (often I don't want out! I want to stay in!). When it gets to the point of wanting out, it's time to get out and have a cuppa.

Have various bits of my own kit; most of it is in my galleries here. So far lots of solo play, but vanilla/ace partner (we communicate well about play). A hard limit is best described as "no dicks in holes" (so no anal or oral sex). So if that's what you're after, move along. Handjobs, toys, fists, and pegging are all on the table.

A few keywords:
Rubber - I really want to do more rubber focused play
Lycra
Neoprene/wetsuits
Sports pads/body armour
MX gear
Down
Body paint/liquid latex
Trackies (nylon/shiny only)
Basically any other shiny clothing
High viz
Baggy trousers and tight tops (I have no idea why; and they are BACK)
Reflective eyewear
Puns
Poppers
Fisting (top or bottom, about 9.5" circumference hands)
Butt toys (comfortably manage the Grip 126, and nearly the depth of the Mare Marker 115)
Hoods
Gas masks
Tubes
Breath control
Bondage
Sleepsacks
Vacbeds (oh my GOD!)
Mummification (bonus points if I'm turned into a toy for you to get off on with a dildo or fleshlight)
Inflatable gear
Suspension
Piercings (on others)
Tongue-invading make out sessions
Body contact
Flogging (receiving)
CBT (ball stretching/crushing)
Chastity
Gunge (slime/foam only)
Wordplay
Tea and biscuits

One’s I’m curious about, but unsure:
Sounding - looks hot but I've never been able to make it feel good
Electro - I need a box to play around with and see what clicks
Sensory deprivation - love it but only tried it once
Hypno - VERY curious
Ropes/Shibari - looks SO hot but I know it's a lot of work and there's a surplus of rope bunnies
Saline - looks amazing, but not sure about the process. I'd like to try it at least once
And willing to give most things a go at least once with discussion beforehand.

Limits: blood, needles (unsure re saline), scat, permanent marks, drugs (including excessive alcohol), piss play, unsafe sex, CP, tickling, tories, terfs, bad UX, "dicks in holes" (see above)

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#MeditationThroughBondage