NY5ub

BDSM Player in Lynchburg

Moving this to the top of the profile, unfortunately:
I’ve been on Recon my entire adult life (i.e. since before it was “Recon”). If I’m overly cautious talking to you, I’m betting you’re a scammer. And I’m usually right. It’s not on me to prove you’re genuine.

Live in south central VA. In NYC 2 weeks a month for work.

EXECUTIVE SUMMARY
BDSM / kink / fetish player & enthusiast.

I live with my partner who shares many of the same interests. We're in an open relationship and play together / separately. We enjoy hosting at home or traveling, and have a large selection of gear.

Professionally, I’m a pragmatic, problem solving, white collar guy in a blue collar industry.

Soft Skills are just as important in BDSM as they are in a job. Don't got 'em? We probably won't get along.



PHOTO GALLERY TIMELINE
Beard? It was taken 2016 or later.
Clean Shaven? It was taken prior to 2016.
Face covered? Does it matter? It's me.
"IN CHARGE" Gallery? Men who I have had the privilege to know and toy with.



KINK & FETISH INTERESTS
I have a wide range of kink experience and interests; feel free to inquire.

Even if I’m not specifically interested in a kink, I’m open to discussing it. I'm naturally submissive, but have learned to dominate.

Armpits
Bets
Bondage
Boots / Boot Licking
Brainwashing
Bullying
Chains
Chastity
CNC (not rape)
Country Boys
Coercion
Control
Cum Control
Degradation
Denial
Deviance
Domestic Service
Dom/sub
Drone
Edging
Encasement
Farms / Ranches / Rural
Feet
Flogging / Whipping
Gags / Muzzles / GOM / HOM
Gear Stays On
Gimp
Goon
Hoods / Masks
Humiliation
Hypnosis
Hazing
Jail / Prison
Leather
LEO's
Manhandling
Man Smells
Manure
Milking
Mind Control
Muck
Musk
Objectification
Oral
Power Exchange / Imbalance
Prey / Victim
PVC
Rainwear
Raingear
Rednecks
Restraints
Rubber
Sensory Deprivation
Side
Socks
Spanking
Sports Gear
Storage
Sweat
Teasing
Uniforms
Waders
Wagers
Wellies
Workgear / Work Wear
Workie
Wearing Others Well-Worn Gear
WS



SAFETY & RESPONSIBILITY
I meet and play with responsible BDSM enthusiasts. The line between fantasy and reality can be quite thin & blurry. It’s fun cross that line from time to time. However, I don't participate in irresponsible play.

Note that responsible does not mean experienced. I enjoy working with those new to BDSM and helping them discover / develop their kinks in a responsible environment.

I have hard and soft limits.

"Needs Discussion" in the "Safe Sex" category means we need to discuss beforehand what we consider to be acceptable activities & risks.

First meetings are always in public, unless you come with a recommendation from someone I know and trust.

I've had a friend stabbed to death (yes, murdered) during a hookup.

I've been in bondage when the Dom started having a heart attack (we both survived).

My ego is well balanced, but I become a stubborn asshole when I observe blatant recklessness, irresponsibility, or discrimination.



NON-KINK
Snowboarding and mountain biking are my two favorite outdoor activities. As of August 2025 I’ve consecutively snowboarded 106 months…a run I plan on continuing for as long as possible. Though none of them well, I play guitar, bass, drums, and keys.



COMMUNITY / ORGANIZATIONAL
Member Delta Brotherhood International;
Delta 2016 - 2025. Delta 2025

A mental connection is unbeatable.



RANDOM MUSINGS
“HeY bUdDy, i DoN’t ChAt OnLiNe!” - Then what the fuck you doing on an online chat app?

“YoU aRe FaR aWaY fRoM mE!” - I have a passport and the means to travel worldwide. This is your limitation, not mine.

I used to be annoyed by 20 year old photos on profiles. Now that I'm one of those guys that has photos from 20 years ago on my profile, I get it.

Self-assessing "Male Hierarchy" pseudo-social-science...is as valuable as astrology. Mix of Alpha, Beta, Pisces, Delta, Taurus. Go to town with that on your podcast... :P