MEMBER ARTICLE: Kinbaku – the beauty of tight binding
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Recon News
21 January 2019
By Freddierope
My obsession with kinbaku started when I met a beautiful, sadistic rope rigger in Berlin called Tam. I'd found his Instagram account by accident and as a creative type got sucked into the imagery and the romance of it all. When we finally met we spent a crazy and intense couple of weeks tying together, where I learnt how to be a good rope bottom, whilst also learning transitions and basic structures for being a rigger -which at the time was my main interest. At the time I didn't realise the sadistic streak it would release in me, which, coupled with my natural nurturing side seemed to create a perfect balance as a top.
Fast forward a few months of obsessive practicing and learning, and I have my own cute rope bunnies under my control.
Traditional kinbaku is about erotic torture, humiliation, power control, complete body restraint, but it can also be romantic (at least for me), playful, and exploratory. I find it quite uncommon to see other guys doing what I do in the gay fetish community, so I end up tying a lot of first timers or guys who's idea or experience of bondage is nothing more than being tied to a bed (which is fine if that's your thing, but it seems not to be an entire experience).
First sessions are always experimental, exploring what the sub's likes, adjusting the rope and bind depending on how they react, how they're breathing.
I can't say I enjoy forced play, I'm not going to get off on it if they're not. If the sub is relaxed, and there's trust and a mutual understanding, it's far more fun. I love toying with the sub's endurance, fluctuating the intensity of the rope-suspensions, torsions, letting their toes touch the ground for a few seconds of relief, changes in pressure - switching from all their body weight on a single torturous waist rope to hanging from an ankle or a futomomo (bound leg). I also love contorting the sub's body, opening out the hips and legs and being able to expose them if I want to, seeing little trembles in their feet and compressed limbs turning purple.
My favourite moments are the "finishing touches", just when they think it can't get worse, a gag, nose hooks, a blind fold, pulling their head back towards their feet taking away the little movement they had left, it's beautiful to see them try to come to terms with what is happening and eventually relaxing into it. There is something sweet about it all, though, I guess I'm just a romantic at heart; where you can see them craving some attention and petting, nurturing, to ease them through it. Being able to touch, tickle, or stroke their hair, holding their feet, helping to create an immediate calmness and a switch in the subs mindset to remind them everything's okay. Torturing and nurturing.
When it clicks with the right boy, it's such an intense experience for both of us, always finishing in a dreamy, sleepy headspace of an adrenaline overdose, with the sub collapsed in my arms like a dead weight dizzy from the high.
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