Considering that wrestling involves getting up close and personal with your opponent, it's not that surprising that there's a fetish sub-culture attached to this contact sport. However, fetish wrestling has a code of conduct all its own, as we've discovered.
What is fetish wrestling?
Away from official wrestling clubs and associations, wrestling fight clubs exists among fetish men. Fetish wrestling has a lot of similarities with non-fetish wrestling, but with an added element of kink. For some guys into it, the fight itself is the aim, while for others, wrestling is a pre-cursor to play between fighters, which is often dictated by whoever wins the match.
Opponents may meet wherever they can set up an improvised ring or fighting area. Styles of fighting vary from boxing to freestyle, judo to tag team. Guys often adopt fetish wrestling personas, with a stage name and amplified personality traits, and their choice of gear can help get them into character. Many fetish wrestlers wear just a simple Lycra or rubber jockstrap to fight, while others go for a singlet and/or additional items like leather cuffs and hoods.
Men into fetish wrestling use a mainly online community to set up fights, sometimes crossing continents to meet up for bouts. Wrestling rules can be pretty flexible and as long as it's pre-agreed by both fighters, anything goes. The build up to a fight can last months, during which opponents might taunt each other online, goading one another with trash talk to make sure the fight is as heated as possible and leading to a greater humiliation.
Wrestling as a fetish
Whether or not a fetish wrestling fight ends in play, fights can be aggressive and intense. For many guys, fighting can be a bit of a physical release, an expression of their strength, agility and masculinity. An opportunity to engage in strenuous sporting comradery, as well as a turn on.
There may be a fine line between fighting and fetish play, but in many cases, there are BDSM undertones. Opponents generally try and fight each other into submission, although in some cases, guys may enter fights with the intent to either win or lose, depending on the role they prefer. Fetish wrestlers may fight for the right to be a Dom or a sub, often engaging in acts of humiliation and domination, which can develop into power play. Wrestling may involve muscle worship too; Doms may fight for the honour of being objectified for their physique by the wrestler they've beaten.
Though fighting largely stays in the ring, there's a strong social aspect to the fetish wrestling community too. Group meets may involve a series of matches before guys spend time just hanging out and having fun.
Getting into the fetish wrestling scene
As with most kinks, there are guys into wrestling who like to simply dip into and observe the scene, some wrestle informally and others take fighting very seriously. The key is to find like-minded opponents who are keen for the same kind of wrestling as you, and to make sure everyone involved knows what is and isn't allowable before a match. Accidents can happen, so only enter into a match if you're happy with the level of wrestling intensity your opponent is looking for.
The same goes for play; don't make assumptions about what your opponent is open to. Not everyone in the fetish wrestling scene is up for more than fighting, so pre-agree what the winner's rights will be (if play is involved) and what you're both interested in. Most guys are pretty clear what they're looking for so it shouldn't be hard to find good matches.
Check out the 'Fighting' interest category on Recon to find guys who are ready to rumble.
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