The pup and handler scene is becoming increasingly popular, especially for those who are new to kink. If you've seen pups on Recon or at any fetish party and are interested in becoming one yourself but don't know where to start, our guide may help.
Here's a brief introduction to the scene and how a good pup should behave.
Why be a pup?
There are lots of reasons why men choose to live the pup lifestyle. First and foremost, being a puppy is a lot of fun. It's a chance for people to escape the hang up and stresses of daily human life and become an 'innocent' animal with limited responsibility for a while.
Most pups enjoy the scene because it allows them to be in a submissive role where they are cared for and played with. The scene is not that different from the slave/master scene. The relationship doesn't have to be sexual, but usually is. While everyone's idea of puppy play varies, it typically doesn't involve as much punishment or humiliation as a slave role. After all, owners care and love their pets!
Where do I start?
To be a good pup you need to get into the headspace. Look at YouTube videos of how puppies behave. They are playful, cheeky and a little naughty – they don't always do what they are told! They are still learning on how to behave, which is something your handler might want to teach you themselves. However, you should still decide what sort of personality your puppy persona is going to have.
Remember to move like a pup, too. Get on all fours (invest in some knee pads to protect yourself from scuffs and injury) and start wagging your 'tail', barking, panting and seeking attention from whoever's around you.
Decide how you want to play
There are no real rules for puppy play, it's what you make it! But the puppy play originates from the BDSM scene. For example, some pups like to sleep in cages, eat dog treats and play games with their handlers, such as catch. Your safety should always be paramount, though. Don't spend hours in cramped cages nor eat treats not intended for human consumption.
The relationship you have with your handler may be sexual, or non-sexual. You should agree the rules and terms of the relationship at the very start. As always, a safe word (or signal if your speech is impended by a mask/hood) is vital to ensure enjoyable play.
Create your pup persona
Many pups choose a name to go by when engaged in play. This helps form their pup persona. Of course, you may leave this decision up to your handler. Some pups also decide on their breed, as each has their own unique personalities. Your breed does not have to reflect your size or looks, so if you're 6ft tall and want to be a Jack Russell, then go for it!
What to wear
Every pup and handler has different opinions of what pups should wear. Some say that because dogs don't wear any clothes, pups should be most naked, aside from their collar and protective knee pads. Again, what you wear is completely up to you (and your handler, if you wish him to have a say).
No gear is needed to become a pup, as it's a state of mind, but if you need help to get into the right headspace or simply wish to look more dog-like, there's lots of accessories available. Hoods/masks which give you a snout and dog ears are very popular, as are puppy tail butt plugs. Leashes are essential if you want to be taken for walks and toys, such as the Kong Bone, are perfect for playtime.
There's no right way to be a pup, but there are plenty of wrong ways. Remember to respect everyone's limits, including yours, your handler's and your fellow pups. Safe words should always be acknowledged – acting 'naughty' is not an excuse.
If you need further advice or would like help finding a handler, speak to fellow pups on Recon. If you use the new Filtering feature in the member lists you can find other pups quickly and easily. They may be able to direct you to pup meet ups where you can try out your new role in a safe and friendly environment.